Archive | February 2011

The Second Part of Our Wedding Trilogy – The Pingtung Banquet

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As we mentioned in our previous Tokyo post there was an unexpected request for us to return to Taiwan.  The reason was so that my parents could celebrate their daughter’s marriage with their friends and relatives.  There are a lot of wedding traditions in Taiwan, and if we were to have done everything properly like my brother and sister in law did we would have had an engagement banquet first, a wedding banquet next, followed by the post-wedding banquet last.  Since we were already married in Bhutan, this was to be a less formal post-wedding banquet for my side of the family to organize.  Eug and I were happy to oblige.  It worked out even better when Eug’s parents, aunt, and uncle were able to fly in for the celebration as well.  And kudos to my parents for pulling together a 32 table lunch banquet in merely 9 days time.  All Eug and I had to do was show up and look pretty.

My dad currently lives in Pingtung, a city in the south of Taiwan about a 40 min drive from Kaohsiung (the second largest city in Taiwan).  My family used to live in Taipei before moving to Vancouver, but my dad decided to move to Pingtung to live with my grandparents after moving back to Taiwan.  Taipei to Pingtung is about a 5 hour drive, but thanks to Taiwan’s new High Speed Rail you can easily get to Kaohsiung in less than 2 hours.  I went down to Pingtung with my mom the day before the banquet to get a final fitting of my dresses.  Eug borrowed a suit from our friend Aven in Taipei so he didn’t need to organize his outfits like I did.   So instead he stayed in Taipei to pick up his parents and relatives from the airport the night before and he took them down to Pingtung on the bullet train the morning before the luncheon, all arranged by my super organized sister in law.  While they were enjoying their train ride, my mom and I had our makeup done in the bridal shop next to our Pingtung house.  Eug’s mom and aunt arrived in time to get some makeup done as well.  Even Eug got his hair styled by the makeup artist!  It was blown dry and hair-sprayed up to the max.  It kind of looked like Eug ran through a snow storm and his hair stayed frozen.  I liked it though, and so did our friends who came from Taipei and Kaohsiung for the luncheon.  The banquet took place on the 2nd floor of a Japanese restaurant.  My dad carefully decorated the entrance with our Bhutan wedding pictures and our Chinese names hung above the guest signing table and the stage.  Once we got there, Eug and I waited in the Bride’s changing room for the cue to walk out and make our first appearance.  It was simple enough as all we had to do was follow a violinist and slowly walk to the head table.  Then a series of speeches went on in Taiwanese (similar to a dialect spoken in the province of Fukien) by some VIP guests such as a senator, the mayor, etc. while tons of food was being served.  It was a 13 course lunch held within 2 hours.  Then my parents, Eug’s parents, Eug and I were asked to go up on the stage so the MC could introduce us to all 320 guests.  That was again easy as we just stood there and smiled.  After the parents returned to the head table, Eug and I remained on stage.  What came next will probably traumatize Eug for the rest of his life.  The MC spoke Taiwanese to Eug and asked if he understood.  Eug said no so the MC said he’d speak Mandarin instead.  He was nice enough to revert to Mandarin for about one sentence before continuing in Taiwanese all over again as he held the mic up to Eug after asking a question.  Eug had no idea what the MC wanted him to say so he awkwardly froze.  As I understand Taiwanese I knew the MC was asking Eug to declare his ‘love vows’ but I wasn’t sure what that entailed, and I also knew Eug wouldn’t be able to do what was asked as he had no idea what was going on, so I grabbed the mic and thanked everyone for coming and expressed how nice it was to end our one year trip in Taiwan.  Finally the MC let us go and when we went back to our table Eug’s parents said they were surprised to see their son speechless for the first time in their lives.  Poor Eug.

At the end of the banquet, Eug and I stood by the exit to say goodbye to the guests as we each held a tray of goodies for them to bring home.  My tray had a whole bunch of candies while Eug’s tray had a whole bunch of cigarettes.  Strange right?  Somehow it’s another tradition, though I guess it’s better than the popular-in-the-south-of Taiwan-but-disgusting betel nut which was once commonly the parting gift given by the groom.  After lunch we went back home to do a quick and casual tea ceremony where I carried tea in a tray and served family members.  My grandparents were first, followed Eug’s parents, Eug’s aunt and uncle, my parents, uncles, etc. as they handed me red envelopes full of money in return.  It was better than Chinese New Year because we got some pretty heavy red envelopes!  Then we took some pictures and that concluded the day.  Even though we didn’t need to do much planning or organizing, it was a tiring day for all of us.  It was a successful banquet though, as all our guests were stuffed and happy, and some liked getting free cigarettes.  And of course it’s not Taiwan if there’s no politics involved.  My dad received at least 50 something Chinese calligraphy scrolls addressed to Eug and I (in our Chinese names of course) with Chinese sayings to bless our marriage.  One was from the Presidential Office Secretary General, one was from a senator, and a lot of government involved officials signed with their names along with their political party.  What was the most amazing was that no scroll sayings were repeated, it was as if they all knew what sayings were used already before they sent theirs.   

Truth be told, this banquet in Pingtung was initiated by my parents.  Eug and I agreed to it on such short notice mainly because it was easier for us to do it while we were in Asia already.  However, after seeing how happy my parents were when organizing the banquet and hanging out with all their guests, I was genuinely thankful for everything they did for this 320 person event to happen.  We probably only knew 5 tables at the most but it was nice to see some relatives that I hadn’t seen since childhood, and most importantly it was great to spend time with my parents and to see them interacting with their social circle.  A lot of people helped out with the event including my dad’s office employees, my grandpa’s old partner’s family, my dad’s Rotary Club friends, his Developer Association friends, and many countless others.  That is probably one of the ‘village’ traditions that doesn’t happen often in big cities these days.  Even though we didn’t know the guests, they knew of us from my parents or relatives.  So to them, they were privileged to be able to help out.  Most importantly, I was very grateful that Eug’s parents and aunt and uncle came all the way from Calgary, Vancouver and HK to Pingtung to be a part of the festivities.  It was a long journey for them but it was exciting to have them meet and hang out with my family.  Marriage isn’t just about us but our families as well.  And for a couple of days after the banquet it was fun to show Eug’s family around Taipei, where his parents spent their honeymoon 32 years ago.  Eug’s dad jokingly told my brother Eug was conceived on this island.  It is fate!

Hot Springs and Champagne Powder

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Since we couldn’t get a flight to Sapporo to go skiing in Niseko, we took a 4 hour bus ride from downtown Tokyo to the heart of Hakuba, another ski town where the 1998 Winter Olympics were held in Japan.  Our friend we had dinner with in HK just went there and had an amazing time, and said there was no need to go to Niseko as conditions in Hakuba were great.  As it turned out we were happy we listened.  Hakuba itself is well known for skiing and the relaxing onsen (hot springs) filled with piping hot mineral water with supposed rejuvenating properties.  It’s a resort town with no less than 9 ski hills side by side.  The village is quaint, and though lacking the manicured  beauty of Whistler or Vail, it’s very charming with a lot of Japanese character.  Instead of burger joints and pubs there are izakayas and soba houses, which we were quite happy about.  Our hotel was at the base of the Happo One ski hill, so that’s where I skied and Di boarded all three days.  We were going to try out the other mountains, but our experience at Happo One was so good that we had no incentive to try the others out.

Since we were in Taipei immediately before Japan, we were able to borrow some winter clothes from one of our friends in anticipation of our time on a ski hill.  We were given some outfits that were pretty cool 10 years ago (think super baggy monochromatic boarder gear).  However people on the hill looked like the boarders pictured above.  I’m not complaining as renting outfits would have cost about 40 US per person per day, but just like in Tokyo, we felt like fashion outcasts.  The first 2 days on the mountain were fantastic.  It snowed heavily so at times, especially at the top of the mountain, the visibility was mediocre.  The snow itself was still good though and it got our coordination on our skiis and boards back to mid-season form.  The third day, however, was epic.  The clouds cleared out and there was nothing but blue sky.  The powder at the top of the hill was knee deep and light, and especially in the morning it was easy to make our own fresh tracks.  Though the mountain was quite small, there was enough terrain to keep us interested, with bumps, powder, steeps and groomers evenly dispersed throughout.  Our muscles finished everyday quite sore, but that didn’t stop us from going all out the next day.  Plus, we had the onsen to soothe the pain once we removed our gear.

The private onsen in our hotel was spotless and luxurious, complete with steam rooms and jacuzzis.  Even with all that, I am still not a convert.  Typically a Japanese onsen has a guy’s side and a girl’s side.  When you go into your respective areas, you’re supposed to get naked in the locker room, and then head to the unisex communal shower rooms where you sit on a stool and clean up before getting into the onsen, in the nude again.  I, for one, am not a fan of sitting around in a hot spring with a bunch of other naked dudes.  Luckily it was never really busy and whenever I was in the pool there was at most one other guy.  The all male nakedness, however, is not the main reason I’m not an onsen convert, the problem is the heat.  That pool of water is scalding hot.  While the other guys looked like they could soak and just relax in the clear mineral baths, I had to strain to just keep myself in there for 10 minutes.  That’s the same reason why I’m also not a fan of steam rooms and saunas, no matter how relaxing the settings are.  Though I could feel my muscles loosening up with the hot soak, the temperature was too uncomfortable for me.  Di, on the other hand, loved it.  Each day I would return to our room after 15 minutes, while it would take Di an extra 45 minutes to make it back. And while I would need to take a cool shower just to get my core temperature down, she would always look refreshed after her soaks.  I thought by the third day I would be more of an experienced onsener which would at least allow me to soak for half an hour; no luck, unfortunately. 

The après ski onsen is similar to the après ski hot tub experience we have back at home.  The last time I went ‘hot-tubbin’ after skiing, I ended up in the same jacuzzi as a couple of self-proclaimed hot-tubbin connoisseurs from the interior of BC.  They were appalled that my friends and I showed up with a single beer each, while the 2 of them had a flat behind them.  For the 30 minutes we sat soaking there nursing our beer and listening to the ins and outs of what makes you a good hot-tubber, they must have downed at least 3 pilsners.  The moment they told me they had been in the relatively small tub for 2 hours already without getting out was the instant I left.  If they had been there for 2 hours and had downed at least 5 beer each, I was certain there was some urine in said jacuzzi.  I gave myself a really long shower after returning to the hotel room.  In fact, I might have taken 2.  They, on the other hand, were amazed that we wanted to leave so quickly, as they had intended to finish their flat over the next few hours while soaking in the bubbles before going back to their room.  Needless to say, the Japanese version of the hot soak after a day on the hill is infinitely more civilized.  I’d way rather sit in a clean tub that has other naked dudes than a tub that has the urine of clothed dudes.  Still doesn’t make me a fan though.

So this is it for our time in Japan this time around.  Though we could have easily spent another week here, we’ll definitely come back in the future since it is hands down one of our favourite countries.  Next time though, we’ll come better equipped with up-to-date clothes (so we won’t look like we emerged from a time machine) and fatter wallets (so we can afford a private in-room onsen; sitting with other naked dudes in the same pool is really not my thing).

Tokyo Love Story

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That’s the title of one of my favourite Japanese dramas that came out in 1991 (gosh, I’m definitely getting old).  Even for a CBC like Eug, he’s heard of the show before and he has some of the songs from the soundtrack in his iTunes.  I thought the title was appropriate here to reflect how we felt about this city.    

Just like how Eug loves Taipei because of the two summers of his youth he spent there, Tokyo ignites a sense of nostalgia in me because I spent the summer of 1998 here on an exchange program in I.C.U. (International Christian University) and I had a blast.  It was the first time I lived in a foreign city on my own, and for a spoiled girl who never had to handle any toughness in life, it was an invaluable experience.  Coincidentally, Eug was in Tokyo that same summer too.  I met Phil (Eug’s BFF) for the first time then.  That summer was where Eug and Phil had their first (and last) physical fight with each other too, in the ridiculously busy Shinjuku train station no less.  This city is full of fun memories for us.  My dad also lived in Tokyo for 2 years while getting his Masters degree at Waseda University and my mom tagged along for one of those years.  It’s nice to walk around the streets of the city where my parents were young and in love, picturing them living out the stories they used to tell my brother and I.  Coming back to Tokyo again with Eug this time was like a reunion of two travellers, each sharing their individual experiences of the same amazing town.

Our first stop was the Tsukiji Market, a must-go place we both frequent every time we come to Tokyo because of its sublime sashimi.  Tsukiji Market is one of the world’s largest fish markets and it handles over 2000 tonnes of marine products per day.  As early as 3am, the wholesalers begin to lay out the goods in preparation for the auction which starts at 5am.  For us lucky tourists, we get to sample some of this fresh sashimi from the sushi restaurants here.  There are quite a few establishments and though I’m sure they’re all good, only two seem to be quite well known, Sushi Dai and Daiwa Sushi.  Sushi Dai had a long line up, so we walked into Daiwa.  To our surprise all the patrons inside were Japanese, which is actually quite rare as usually there are a lot of Asian tourists (mainly from Hong Kong).  We sat down by the sushi bar and once we put in our orders, our sushi came in no time.  We had the best Uni, Hamachi, and Toro ever that morning, and everything else was exceptionally good too.  Eug gave a nice sigh at the end of the meal while sipping his green tea, saying that was the best sushi meal he’s ever had.

We didn’t have any particular itinerary in Tokyo since we’ve both been here quite a few times already.  After Tokyo, we were planning on going to Kyoto and Niseko for a couple of days before returning to Vancouver on Feb. 22 (yes, very soon!) but an unexpected request came up for us to return to Taiwan on Feb 17th, so we had to cut our Japan trip short by cancelling Kyoto.  And when we tried to book Niseko everything was sold out because it was a long weekend in addition to Valentine’s Day.  After 3 hours of online research in a smoky ‘net café and comic store’ where half of the people were surfing porn sites, we decided to head to Hakuba as our skiing destination instead of Niseko.  So for our 5 days in Tokyo we just chilled and took our time to check out different areas: Shinjuku (picture above), Ebisu, Harajuku, and Omote-Sando.  We met up with Eug’s friend Hisako who studied in UBC for almost 2 years before moving back to Japan.  Her husband Sohei and another friend Yoichiro (who Eug met in New York 7 years ago) took us to an authentic Japanese restaurant in Ebisu, followed by a wine bar with a fantastic selection close by.  Initially she was going to take us out for dinner at the Ritz-Carlton, but our wardrobe consisted of holey jeans, Chuck Taylors and worn out T-shirts.  That, unfortunately, didn’t meet the minimum dress code bar set by the RC.  We also met up with Susan one night as she happened to be in town as well.  It was great to catch up with her again since seeing her last at our wedding in Bhutan.

Eug and I like Tokyo a lot for the same reasons.  The food is excellent, people are polite, the service is incomparable, the city has a great vibe, and it is clean everywhere.  We rarely came across a dirty washroom and I noticed that there were no cigarette butts on the ground this time around.  I later saw signs saying smoking wasn’t allowed on the sidewalk unless you were in one of the designated smoking corners.  In my opinion more countries should implement this system.  Japan is also probably one of the more creative and artistic countries in Asia; there is cool architecture, numerous museums, and super stylish people.  Compared to the average fashion-forward Tokyo citizen, we might as well have been that awkward uncle who wears Birkenstocks, wool socks, cargo shorts and oversized golf shirts.  We felt that uncool.  Though with all its modern chic and trendsetting styles, Japan still retains a strong sense of its ancient national culture and traditions.  It mixes old and new amazingly well, better than any other country we’ve been to, and we both love that about this place.

Tokyo is the best run metropolis on Earth, everything just works well here.  However, it holds less of an allure now than compared to, say, 20 years ago.  Back then, everything Japanese was the future and Japan seemed like it was set to take over as the world’s most dynamic economy and country.  That was the first time Eug and I, as children, went to Tokyo.  Eug has been coming back regularly ever since 1998, and he finds that not much has changed since then.  The city itself is extremely well maintained, but infrastructure such as the railway and metro systems are definitely the same as they were many years ago.  Same goes for the highways and a lot of the buildings we saw.  In contrast, the pace of development in the rest of East Asia, most notably China and Korea and Singapore, has been astounding in the last 20 years.  And you always hear how Japan has the oldest population on the planet, and how their fertility rate is really low and how their population is declining rapidly.  That was always just news, but this time walking around the streets of Tokyo we could readily observe the difference in demographics.  Who knows what the future will hold for this ageing populace, but with the Japanese culture of excellence and their still world-leading innovation, I’m sure the future is bright for the land of the rising sun.

Time to Usher in the Year of the Rabbit

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We flew back to Taiwan to celebrate Chinese New Year with Di’s family.  We actually didn’t spend it in Taipei though, we went way south to the town of Ping Tung where Di’s family is originally from.  Thankfully Taiwan has a new high speed rail system, so we were able to travel the 500 kms from Taipei to Ping Tung in about an hour and a half on a comfortable train.  About 6 years ago was the first time I went to Ping Tung, and it was on a really scary plane that looked like it should have been retired to the junkyard about 20 years earlier.  Yay for progress.

Chinese New Years is the most festive time of year in much of Asia, and is largely about family (kind of like Christmas back home).  So we spent our time there hanging out with Di’s relatively small family.  The star of all the meals and get-togethers was definitely Di’s 20 month old niece, who is ridiculously adorable (that’s me and her in the picture in Di’s old family lot).  She’s quite the entertainer, and though I know everyone says that their kid is the cutest, I think she really is the cutest.  When I celebrate Chinese New Year back in Vancouver with my extremely large family, we usually have a couple of festive meals together and follow certain traditions (like handing out red envelopes full of money and wishing everyone a great new year with Chinese sayings).  Spending it in Ping Tung was an entirely new experience for me as the people here are more traditional.  Di’s family house in Ping Tung has a room where they light incense and pray for a good year, so we partook in that.  We also burned gold and silver plated papers in a big fire in a metal bin, like what you see in old Chinese movies.  Di’s brother and I took down the old red papers full of Chinese sayings in calligraphy around the house that brought in the year of the tiger (last year).  We then replaced them with new red ones that ushered in this year, the year of the rabbit.  We also went to a busy Buddhist temple that Di’s great grandmother had founded many years ago to again ask for a good year, and we drove around town as Di’s parents handed out red envelopes to those they knew and wished them all a happy new year.  Di’s dad is also a prominent member of the town’s Rotary Club, so we went to their big function as well.

Our good friend Mike’s family is also from Ping Tung, so he invited us to spend an afternoon with them as they were close by.  We let Di’s parents take a nap as we went to chill with Mike, and his large family was relaxing in an old-school communal courtyard lined by three houses that their family owned.  Those layouts used to be extremely common, as one house would hold the grandparents and the others would hold the sons/daughters and their families.  It reminded us of the old HuTongs in Beijing where family houses also had courtyards.  One of Mike’s elders told us that courtyards like theirs used to be everywhere, but now there are practically none to be seen as they’ve been bulldozed and replaced by high rises.  However Mike’s family kept theirs (though no one lives there now really), and every Chinese New Year they return to spend the day with family.  The adults were playing Mah Jong or just talking, and the kids had their own mini play table as well (though 6’3 Mike was eager to sit and play with them on a little stool).  And as with all Chinese get-togethers, there was a ton of amazing food and drink available.  It was really cool to see 3 generations just spending time together in this courtyard, just as Mike had done when he was a little kid, and his parents has done when they were little kids.

We’ve travelled the world this year, looking for authentic cultural experiences from all different walks of life.  And though our experiences have been nothing short of amazing, we’ve still always been the outsider or the guest who’s been given the opportunity to partake or to watch.  Being truly part of a tradition that’s older than time really is incredible.  It’s a feeling that is almost beyond description, kind of how people back home would describe Christmas, or how our Muslim friends would describe Ramadan.  Though there is an underlying reason for the celebrations I’ve just listed, family really plays a central role in all of them.  I was happy to celebrate with my new family, and look forward to Di celebrating with ours in the future years.

So another lunar year has passed, and with the start of the year of the rabbit Di and I would like to wish everyone a year full of health, happiness, and prosperity.  Happy New Year!

Singapore – City of the Merlion (the magical union of lion…and mermaid)

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I’ve always wanted to visit Singapore, not for anything else but the tasty food that I often hear about.  So we did a quick stop over for 2 nights in Singapore after Sydney and prior to heading to Taiwan for Chinese New Year.  Before I start talking about what we did in Singapore, I have to mention our flights with Singapore Airlines.  They were fantastic.  The new planes have wide individual TV screens (probably bigger than our netbook screen), comfortable seats, big washrooms, extraordinary service and excellent food.  Just like Cathay we got a menu even sitting in Economy class and ice cream after the meal.  There are also tons of new movies to choose from.  Our flight from Sydney to Singapore was about 8 hours long and it went by very quickly; I was disappointed when the captain announced that we were about to land.  Singapore Airlines is that awesome.  Someone from Air Canada (which sucks) should take notes.

Once we arrived in Singapore airport we decided on taking the train into the city as it only cost $2.10 and the closest MRT station to our hotel was about a 5 minute walk away.  We chilled for a bit in the hotel and went to Dempsey Road to meet our friend Wendy for dinner.  She used to be a dentist in London but has moved to Singapore for quite a few years now.  We met her at Samy’s Curry for its famous fish head curry.  She brought 2 friends with her and it turned out that we knew one of them already from Taiwan a few years back.  The food was delicious and it was interesting to hear about their lives in Singapore.  They like Singapore because it’s probably the next best place to make a good living besides Hong Kong in Asia.  It’s not as competitive as HK though so the work environment is more pleasurable, and the income tax rate is about the same.  The city itself has about 5 million people but it’s quite spread out so you don’t feel the crowding you normally would in other major Asian cities.  We also learned that because the fertility rate (like in all developed countries) is very low in Singapore, so the government is trying to encourage people to have families by sending brochures to single adults offering dating advice.  Too bad we didn’t stay long enough for our friends to show us some of these brochures.  The next day we walked around Chinatown and had some really good food from the hawker stalls.  We each picked a stall with a long line up and shared our finds of Hainan Chicken Rice and Fish Slice Noodles.  Both turned out to be successful choices.  We then went to the famous Orchard road and spent the rest of the afternoon in the vicinity.  Orchard Road is comparable to Fifth Avenue in Manhattan with high end retail shops and department stores.  We took a break in a big food court next to Takashimaya department store and tried a Laksa and Fukien Fried Noodles.  Again they did not disappoint.  With less than an hour before meeting our Singaporean friends we met in Myanmar, we took a scenic walk from Orchard Road to Clark Quay and from the Merlion statue (picture above) back to River Walk.  We then met our friends at the Jumbo restaurant for some yummy chilli crab and drunken prawns.  I was very satisfied to finally taste the chilli crab here because we heard from three different friends to go to Jumbo to specifically order that dish.  The sauce was flavourful but maybe because we are spoiled by the big juicy Dungeness crabs in Vancouver, we found the crab a little small and not meaty enough.  The waitress did warn us that they only had smaller crabs left when we ordered though.  Our friends were still right for recommending it to us, it was pretty damn good!

Singapore is a very clean and well run country.  It was very easy to travel around especially since we speak 2 of the 4 official languages (English, Chinese, Malay, and Tamil) here.  There aren’t many sights to visit though as we probably saw everything walking around the city for half a day.  That said, it is amazing how this small place is doing so well economically despite the downturn that the rest of the world faces.  The people seem quite content with this country as well.  Many, including Eug, say the country is sterile, and you definitely get that sensation (they’re not a riotous group, these Singaporeans).  However, I think most of the citizens here are willing to make concessions on having an energetic, dynamic city vibe in return for a safe, clean, and prosperous life.  The government definitely holds a lot of power here, but it seems to do its job efficiently and amazingly well when it comes to promoting economic growth and educational/professional opportunities.  Though I’m not completely advocating a Singaporean style of rule, I think a lot of other countries can learn a lot from this city state.  I, for one, am glad to have had the chance to finally visit Singapore.  Now it’s time to go to Taipei to celebrate Chinese New Year!